Thursday, December 12, 2013

Blogging with Skeletons in Your Closet.....

Hey readers and subscribers! Happy Holidays! So today I wanted to blog a little different. No outfit post no pictures, just my thoughts and words. I was talking to a friend recently and she mentioned to me that she couldn't see herself being a blogger. I asked why she felt that way, and she simply stated " Girl I did to many things in my past to be parading around on the Internet. Someone might recognize me."







Its funny because when those words left her mouth I remember my body started to process my own fear. My hands started to sweat and my throat got dry due to memories of my past flashing before my eyes. Never in a million years have I thought of the repercussions of my past affecting blogging. It wasn't even a thought! I just wanted to blog and show-case my sense of style. But after my friend said that I started to wonder, do other bloggers have this same fear? You know the fear of an ex trying to "expose" you, or the gripping truth of  "the other woman" posing as a subscriber. And a bitter ex friend who knows all your secrets and has a platform to reveal them. I know a majority of bloggers get some hate from Instagram, Facebook, or Tumblr, but how do you process that hate when there is someone who tries to demise your character with things from your past?
 
 
 


So far my blogging experience has been pleasant. Since I'm working from a smaller platform of viewers and readers the coast has been clear from trolls, scrubs, and Internet thugs. Oh but do trust that there never goes a day when I check my emails or read comments that I don't get anxiety about someone dissing me or write a dissertation of when I hook up with an ex from 10 years ago. Although I'm not much of fan, I couldn't imagine what it was like for Kim Kardashian  to have an actually porn tape and still try to build a brand. So I want to know your thoughts on the subject, especially from fellow bloggers. Do you have fear of expanding your blog due to skeletons in your closet? Have you ever been confronted with a viewer who tried to expose you? How would you handle if someone tried to expose you on your blog, Instagram, or Facebook?





XOXO
Keisha
 
 


8 comments:

  1. My ex's other silently followed me & pestered my blogging BFF on Instagram liking pics after I did and followed her and unfollowed her. I don't know if she still keeps up with me & it's definitely not going to stop me from doing me and expanding. When I found out he was cheating I ended it and told him to be with her. So there was and is no reason for drama. In regards to negative comments on social media it comes with the turf & take it with grain of salt, or address it in a grown up manner and keep it moving.

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    1. I love your advise!! I appreciate you for sharing your story and commenting Liz!

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  2. I kid you not but it never crossed my mind about my past life being exposed because I have a blog. I always thought if, by some miracle, I ever become famous can I handle my past life coming back to haunt me ala Kim Kardashian. But for my lil' ol' blog to do so? Nah. Never crossed my mind...until now. Luckily, I've been fortunate enough not to be pestered by someone trying to do ill will against me. If ever a situation like that arise, I will ignore them. People like that want attention; 15 minutes of fame in the internet world. It's best to pretend they don't exist. And, of course, block them any way you can on social media.

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    1. Oh I hear you Vivi, ignore!! I probably wouldn't address it either. But yes it is something to think about though because in a sense we have loyal readers and subscribers and I have an "image" I want to uphold. So all you lurkers and haters STAY AWAY! Thanks for sharing your insight Vivi!

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  3. I thought of this when I first started blogging as well because BAYBEE let me tell you my past is most definitely not squeaky clean by any means!!! lolllllllllll But honestly, people who read your blog just come to see what you wear next...I don't think readers would change their views of you if they found out something unsavory about your past unless you are one of those Iyanla Vanzant type lifestyle bloggers that try to give everyone advice and act like your life if perfect. As big as my platform has gotten I have received troll comments from anonymous posters on my blog and my Husband's ex's friends following me on social network but nothing else from my past has resurfaced as of yet. If it should I'd just block them any way that I can and ignore them. Who I WAS made me who I am and I have no regrets.

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    1. HAHAHAHA! I hear you Lady V! BLOCK button would be my other option too! And your husband's ex friends follow you too? I always found that interesting, LOL! But I love your last statement of "who I was made me who I 'am and I have no regrets." Amazing advice!

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  4. I've never thought of this. I guess I don't have a ton of exes. Most of my friends have no idea that I blog but know someone was trolling my site. Maybe two really nasty comments about my weight but nothing else. I've always tried to end all situations that went badly with a good gesture. So I really hope nothing happens.

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    1. I'm sure as sweet as you are you won't have anything to worry about! I just felt the conversation needed to talked about because no one talked about it or brought it up, I know for many or us it won't be a problem, but there are some vile people in this world, I appreciate you, Elle for your imput!

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